"You guys can’t be gay, you’re too hairy!' - A neighbor in Texas
Who are those two young dudes?!
CJ and Charlie -- since 1996
ENGINEERS, DOGGY DADS, MADLY IN LOVE
We met in 1996 through a mutual friend while we were living in Portland Or. In our time together we've made a great many friends, seen a lot of the US in our RV, and had many grand adventures.
Now we find ourselves at a crossroad... how can we help our friends, family, and neighbors have the discussions we all need to have so we can learn from each other and break down some of the tension, drama, and sometimes outright ignorance of our fellow man?
That's why we're doing this blog. Let's have a chat, share viewpoints, maybe realize that the person you felt you could never have anything in common with is actually dealing with exactly the same issues.
ABOUT THE BEAR THING
Why do we call ourselves Bears?
Many years ago, there was a movement born from a simple desire to be part of a community. Many gay men felt that they didn't fit in with the stereotypes of that time because they weren't the pretty gym bodies with Farrah Fawcett hair and smooth faces.
Hence the birth of the bear movement.
Everyone was welcome! Big guys, little guys, hairy guys, smooth guys, buff dudes, chubby dudes, young men, old men... and those that admired them!
There are Bear groups all over the world, many of them have events to raise money for charities, many of them are active in the social/political arena, and they all know how to throw a most excellent party.
Almost everyone on this planet wants to feel like they are part of a community. We need acceptance in our lives. We need to know that we're not alone on this planet full of people."